My daughter has been wearing this mask- FTM- we are in year 6. You have been a hero to me for years. Thank you for this deeply moving post- I feel joy for you and hold onto hope for all those still in masks.
I don’t know what actually happened but it sure is immature of the people you were associated with to publicly post what they did. I don’t know any of you, so it felt wrong to be reading a pretty vague but highly-private outline of whatever relational issues and events caused you all to part ways.
What they wrote is at once too specific but not specific enough, certainly not anyone else’s business, and not protecting anyone involved because readers can figure out who the players are in this situation; this is the internet ffs. But it’s pretty obvious that they blame you for everything.
The only purpose it serves is to say “We are ‘good people’ that think Aaron is not, and we need you to suspect we are right…” when they could have just left the hearsay character assassination out of it.
Considering that these kind people confessed to spending time trying to help you find support for your mental health, you would think that it might occur to them that coming online and shit talking you before a jury of your peers might not be a great idea?
On the plus side, it’s nice to see dyke drama again, even if you all can’t agree on butch/femme, which topics to focus on, what constitutes abuse, timelines for creating content, etc.
And honestly, just how mentally healthy we can expect ANY lesbians having these conversations to be considering 95% of lesbians in the west have he/him-he/they-she/they-and-they/them’d themselves into oblivion for the last 20 years?
I do feel a bit of catharsis over the fact that Dyke Drama is evergreen. Lol. Sorry these guys are out there saying you’re horrible. I hope it’s not true, and even if it is true, that post was truly pointless and not helpful. Lol
This is just an aside, but I listened to that red flag episode you all recorded warning butches about fake femmes and fakebians with bpd and other issues. If you just experienced a thing like that recently, it’s still acute enough to want to talk about it.
Those women really do push some dykes into transition because they want a man, but hate men, and project that all out on to their female partners at the same time as they hate all your female traits. It’s a real pattern that has been known among lesbians since forever, and even worse now that most of the lgb women are Bihet or future Bihet, or even mostly het comphet-believers with extra steps calling themselves butch/femme when they have no idea what that means.
If there are any actual butches and femmes left alive they need to know they are not alone. I’m neither, but I have seen this exact pattern play out for decades.
If women don’t like the truth, they can figure their feelings out themselves and stop expecting lesbians to sugar coat it and spoon feed it to them.
Anyway, I hope you are not getting shit on for naming reality or whatever, but you’ve been around long enough to know that lesbians are real combative and warlike in general. At least you’re not on here writing a whole plot outline for a novel based on real people and real conversations like these Jenny Schecters airing your business. I’m glad you have chosen not to get into it, it doesn’t make anyone look good to behave this way about specific people on public forums. I remember when we kept lesbian drama away from Bihet/straight eyes just for sanity’s sake but I guess we can’t really do that now that everything is online.
I have no idea what went on with these people, and it's none of my business. I'm just writing because, as a parent of an ROGD FTM (lots of acronyms to remember in this new world!), I wanted to say how important your voice has been to me personally. I hope someday it can be a voice my daughter can hear. Good luck with your continuing evolution!
In the video I watched, the demeanor, the gestures, the vibes, really, of the women with you, were the kind of vibes that kept me from joining feminist organizations in campus when I went to graduate school in the US (in Madison, Wisconsin, to be precise). A hostility. Not to you in particular (pushback and debate are not hostility, and even that was not very present), but to... to women who were not lesbians, to men in general, to women who'd wear makeup or shave their legs (but that would be okay if it's a sexual partner...). Which is fine. I'm not a lesbian and this was a lesbian thing, Stone Butch Disco. And I have never been the kind of straight woman that would go to a lesbian bar, never been "bi-curious" or wanted to kiss a girl "to see what that's like", because instrumentalizing people seems wrong to me and I would only kiss a girl, or a boy (figuratively: i'm talking adults here), that I liked "in that way"... BUT I am interested in women's rights, feminism, women's sexuality (and that includes female homosexuality), and behavioral things related to all of this... ANYWAY, it is hard to pinpoint a reason other than a hostile vibe... I do not feel, and never felt, vibes of hostility from you, in your videos and posts. So your vibes and their vibes were just not flowing together...
My daughter has been wearing this mask- FTM- we are in year 6. You have been a hero to me for years. Thank you for this deeply moving post- I feel joy for you and hold onto hope for all those still in masks.
I don’t know what actually happened but it sure is immature of the people you were associated with to publicly post what they did. I don’t know any of you, so it felt wrong to be reading a pretty vague but highly-private outline of whatever relational issues and events caused you all to part ways.
What they wrote is at once too specific but not specific enough, certainly not anyone else’s business, and not protecting anyone involved because readers can figure out who the players are in this situation; this is the internet ffs. But it’s pretty obvious that they blame you for everything.
The only purpose it serves is to say “We are ‘good people’ that think Aaron is not, and we need you to suspect we are right…” when they could have just left the hearsay character assassination out of it.
Considering that these kind people confessed to spending time trying to help you find support for your mental health, you would think that it might occur to them that coming online and shit talking you before a jury of your peers might not be a great idea?
On the plus side, it’s nice to see dyke drama again, even if you all can’t agree on butch/femme, which topics to focus on, what constitutes abuse, timelines for creating content, etc.
And honestly, just how mentally healthy we can expect ANY lesbians having these conversations to be considering 95% of lesbians in the west have he/him-he/they-she/they-and-they/them’d themselves into oblivion for the last 20 years?
I do feel a bit of catharsis over the fact that Dyke Drama is evergreen. Lol. Sorry these guys are out there saying you’re horrible. I hope it’s not true, and even if it is true, that post was truly pointless and not helpful. Lol
I’m not going to hash out details. I was entangled in things I didn’t want to be entangled in. Now I’m free.
This is just an aside, but I listened to that red flag episode you all recorded warning butches about fake femmes and fakebians with bpd and other issues. If you just experienced a thing like that recently, it’s still acute enough to want to talk about it.
Those women really do push some dykes into transition because they want a man, but hate men, and project that all out on to their female partners at the same time as they hate all your female traits. It’s a real pattern that has been known among lesbians since forever, and even worse now that most of the lgb women are Bihet or future Bihet, or even mostly het comphet-believers with extra steps calling themselves butch/femme when they have no idea what that means.
If there are any actual butches and femmes left alive they need to know they are not alone. I’m neither, but I have seen this exact pattern play out for decades.
If women don’t like the truth, they can figure their feelings out themselves and stop expecting lesbians to sugar coat it and spoon feed it to them.
Anyway, I hope you are not getting shit on for naming reality or whatever, but you’ve been around long enough to know that lesbians are real combative and warlike in general. At least you’re not on here writing a whole plot outline for a novel based on real people and real conversations like these Jenny Schecters airing your business. I’m glad you have chosen not to get into it, it doesn’t make anyone look good to behave this way about specific people on public forums. I remember when we kept lesbian drama away from Bihet/straight eyes just for sanity’s sake but I guess we can’t really do that now that everything is online.
Anyways i can contact you
info@aaronkimberly.com
I have no idea what went on with these people, and it's none of my business. I'm just writing because, as a parent of an ROGD FTM (lots of acronyms to remember in this new world!), I wanted to say how important your voice has been to me personally. I hope someday it can be a voice my daughter can hear. Good luck with your continuing evolution!
I’m doing well. Thank-you. Give your daughter time and take good care of yourself. ❤️
Finally! I did not like the Stone Butch Disco thing, Aaron, it was... I did not like the vibes.
I’m curious what you didn’t like about it.
In the video I watched, the demeanor, the gestures, the vibes, really, of the women with you, were the kind of vibes that kept me from joining feminist organizations in campus when I went to graduate school in the US (in Madison, Wisconsin, to be precise). A hostility. Not to you in particular (pushback and debate are not hostility, and even that was not very present), but to... to women who were not lesbians, to men in general, to women who'd wear makeup or shave their legs (but that would be okay if it's a sexual partner...). Which is fine. I'm not a lesbian and this was a lesbian thing, Stone Butch Disco. And I have never been the kind of straight woman that would go to a lesbian bar, never been "bi-curious" or wanted to kiss a girl "to see what that's like", because instrumentalizing people seems wrong to me and I would only kiss a girl, or a boy (figuratively: i'm talking adults here), that I liked "in that way"... BUT I am interested in women's rights, feminism, women's sexuality (and that includes female homosexuality), and behavioral things related to all of this... ANYWAY, it is hard to pinpoint a reason other than a hostile vibe... I do not feel, and never felt, vibes of hostility from you, in your videos and posts. So your vibes and their vibes were just not flowing together...